UNIVERSITY OF LAGOS,
AKOKA, LAGOS.
SULAIMAN UTHMAN OLA, HSE
uthy4luv@gmail.com, sulaimanuthmanola@yahoo.com
07035536056
Self Management Soft Skills
Management is the act of getting things done through others. (Mary Parker Follet)
Self management skills address how you perceive yourself and others, manage your emotions, and react to adverse situations. Only when you build an inner excellence can you have a strong mental and emotional foundation to succeed in your career.
1. Growth mindset – Looking at any situations, as an opportunity for you to learn, grow and change for the better. Focusing your attention on improving yourself instead of changing others or blame anyone.
2. Self awareness - Knowing and understanding what drives, angers, motivates, embarrasses, frustrates and inspire you. Being able to observe yourself objectively in difficult situation and understand how your perception about yourself, others and the situation are driving your actions.
3. Emotion regulation – Being able to manage your emotions, especially negative ones, at work (e.g. anger, frustration, embarrassment) so you can think clearly and objectively, and act accordingly.
4. Self – confidence – Believing in yourself and ability to accomplish anything. Knowing that all you need is within you now. ‘‘Those who believe in themselves have access to unlimited power’’ – wisdom from Kung Fu Panda
5. Stress management – Being able to stay healthy, calm and balanced in any challenging situations. Knowing how to reduce your stress level will increase your productivity, prepare you for new challenges and support your physical and emotional health, all of which you need for a fulfilling, successful career.
6. Resilience – Being able bounced back after a disappointment or set back, big or small, and continues to move onward and upward.
7. Skill to forgive and forget - Being able to forgive yourself for making a mistake, forgive other that wronged you, and moved on without “Mental or emotional baggage.” Freeing your mind from the past so you can focus 100% of your mental energy on our near and long time career goals.
8. Persistence and perseverance – Being able to maintain the same energy and dedication in your effort to learn, do, and achieve in your career despite difficulties, failures, and oppositions.
9. Patience – Being able to step back in a seemingly rushed or crisis situation, so you can think clearly and take action that fulfils your long term goals.
10. Perceptiveness – Giving attention and understanding to the unspoken cues and underlying nuance of other people’s communication and actions. Often times, we are too busy thinking about ourselves and what we are saying, we leave little room to watch and understand others’ action and intentions. If you misinterpret other’s intention, you can easily encounter difficulties in dealing with people and not even know why.
People skill address how to best interact and work with others so you can build meaningful work relationships, influence others perception of you and your work, and motivate their actions. I have split them into two sections – Conversional and Tribal
Conversional - List of people skills you find in most job descriptions and you will be accessed on some or all of these in your performance reviews depending on your level.
1. Communication skills – Being able to actively listen to others and articulate your idea in written and verbally to any audience in a way where you are heard and you achieve the goals you intend with that communication.
2. Teamwork skills – Being able to work effectively with anyone with different skill sets, personalities, work styles, or motivation level to achieve a better team result.
3. Interpersonal relationship skills - Being able to work effectively at building trust, finding common ground, having empathy, and ultimately building good relationships with people at work and in your network. This skill is closely related to communication skills. As Maya Angelou said “I have learned people will forget what you said. People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you make them feel.”
4. Presentation skills – Effectively presenting your work results and ideas formally to an audience that captivate their attention, engages their input, and motivate them to act in accordance to your desire outcome. While presenting skills is a form of communication skills, i decided to list it separately given the ability to present plays a huge role in any business profession especially as you move p in your career.
5. Meeting management skills – Leading a meeting to efficiently and effectively reach productive results. At least 50% of meetings today are a waste of time.
6. Facilitating skills – Being able to coordinate and solicit well represented opinions and feedback from a group with diverse perspectives to reach a common, best solution.
7. Selling skills – Building buy – in to an idea, a decision, an action, a product, or a service. This is not just for people in sales.
8. Management skills – Creating and motivating a high performing team with people of varied skills, personalities, motivations, and work styles.
9. Leadership skills – Defining and communicating vision and ideas that inspires others to follow with commitment and dedication.
10. Mentoring / coaching skills – Providing constructive wisdom, guidance, and/or feedback with commitment and dedication.
“Tribal” – list of people skills that you will not find in any job descriptions. They are also essential to yours career success. I call it tribal because they are more “insider knowledge” that you gain from work experience or from mentors. Some people can go through their entire career and not be aware of some of these skills.
11. Managing upwards – Proactively managing your relationship with your boss, his expectations of your work, and his perception of your performance. Whether you are challenged, given opportunities, or recognized at work heavily depends on your ability to communicate, manage expectations, and build a good relationship with your boss.
12. Self-promotion skills – Proactively and subtly promoting your skills and work results to people of power or influence in your organization and network. It is not enough that your boss knows you do great work. You need to subtly build your reputation with all key people that can influence your performance review. This is because hard work alone does not guarantee success.
13. Skills in dealing with difficult personalities – Being able to still achieve the work result needed while working with someone whom you find difficult.
14. Skills in dealing with difficult/unexpected situations – Being able to stay calm and still are effective when faced with an unexpected or difficult situation. This includes being able to thinks on your feet and articulate thoughts in an organized manner even when you are not prepared for the discussion or situation you are in.
15. Savvy in handling office politics – Being able to understand and proactively deals with unspoken nuances of office and people dynamics so you can protect yourself from unfairness as well as further your career. Office politics is a fact of life. If you don’t choose o play, it can play you.
16. Influence / persuasion skills – Being able to influence perspectives or decision making but still have the people you influence think they make their own minds.
17. Negotiation skills – Being able to understand the other side’s motivations and leverage and reach a win – win resolution that you find favourably, satisfy both sides, and maintain relationships for future interactions.
18. Networking skills – Being able to be interested in business a conversation that motivates people to want to be in your network. The bigger and stronger the network you have the more easily you can get things done (e.g., find a job, get advice, find business partners, find customers, etc)
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